Vetting - Why do we do this?

We want comfortable spaces of kindness

For everyone.

For those who struggle with select social skills, we have custom events & free trainings to help you succeed!

And there will be later opportunities to see if you can move to our main site events - after learning from the free trainings.

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We don't do it to be unkind.

We only accept members to our main site events who exhibit top tier actions in social settings - because we are not a church or traditional company.

At church & most office spaces, there are multiple paid staff on site to help diffuse situations and give oversight if help is needed. Churches and office spaces also do not have 70% (or more) of the people there hoping to ask someone out that day or soon.

It is a delicate balance to host our 'new friendships' settings.

In addition, many of our events are volunteer led, small and full of people meeting for the very first time.

Those settings require exceptional proven patterns of behavior for everyone to feel comfortable and have fun!

Thank you for understanding!

The Membership Vetting Process

To join the main site - Pass the Vetting Process

Attend 1-3 Group Calls

Where peers at the event (both men and women) have a chance to 'recommend you' as:

1) Someone who aligns with the Christian values of our site.

2) Is pleasant, comfortable and kind to be around.

3) Consistently follows group guidelines :)

4) Has had no substantial negative feedback.

People are not 'ruled out' for simply being shy or for looks, or income, or ethnicity, or disability, or etc.

It is only actions you do, not attributes you have, that make the difference!

Come to serve Christ and others on this site!

"Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others." -Philippians 2:4

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If you do not pass the vetting process

You are a great person!

And we have free trainings to help you learn the reasons and skills that will help you to be successful in future settings!

Examples of actions that keep people from the main site.

Not giving a lady or a man space at an event who might want a chance to speak with other people.

Expressing anger/frustration on your face or in your movements that cause others to feel uncomfortable.

Complaining a lot or 'Oversharing'.

Routinely talking more than others in a conversation so that others are less able to connect.

Speaking about politics and denominational differences - rather than supporting the goal of unity & bringing people together. There are other places and times in life to discuss those topics.

And more described in our site guidelines.

Actions that will get people removed/banned from our site no matter how 'fun' and otherwise kind they are:

Being discriminatory, lying, soliciting money, acting in ways outside of scripture - and more as discussed in the guidelines on our site.